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There was much talk of courtship being ok but dating being bad at my Chapter shortly before I leftI. Ironically someone was rebuked for finding a girlfriend even though they told me courting was ok. They were into I kissed dating goodbye, by Joshua Harris and said Billy Graham courted his wife. Here is a good article about what is wrong with courtship by someone else. And another two articles about the author of the book repenting that is having a change of mind.